Parents: if your daughter were to create a website, what would be your rules?

In particular, I would be creating a website (with my own domain name/host) that would contain photos, bios, interviews, videos, and links regarding my friend's band who was just signed by Interscope Records.





I tried the whole myspace/xanga thing before, and yeah, that didn't exactly work. My parents knew about all of those cases involving child molesters and what not, so I am completely done with that.





But keeping in mind that that is where their concerns are coming from, what would be your rules as to what I could include/do with this website? Thus far, I have these rules, which were established as general internet rules after the myspace scenario:





Do not talk badly about your parents, family, or life


Do not swear


Do not post any thing obscene


Do not post any personal information


Do not post e-mail addresses or contact forms


Do not post about breaking the law or any rules





As a parent, what other concerns would you have?

Parents: if your daughter were to create a website, what would be your rules?
I'm not a parent, but I'll be having a little girl in a few weeks.





On top of what you mentioned, I'd also want to make sure that there were no pictures of my daughter up there. No comments or allusions to the location - if it is a small, local band, that is just getting started, chances are they perform near your home right? I wouldn't want any hint of where you lived on there. No talking about your school, your activities, anything that could allow someone to find you. It's easy to put things together - a picture of you, a brief blurb that mentions where you live, and talking about your track team going to state means that someone could easily find you if they wanted to.





Also, no one should ever put their full name on the internet, child or adult. I'd consider your first name or maybe a false name, but not your full name.





If you want to have an email link, maybe you could set up an email address just for that purpose. One you didn't use for anything else. Use an anonymous name - ABCbandwebmaster@whatever.com - so that it's harder to find out who you are.





It sounds like you have this really planned out, and have considered your parents' concerns. I'd say you have a decent chance at getting your parents to sign off on this. They will appreciate the time you took to plan it and will definitely be impressed with the level of responsibility you have taken as far as their fears and your personal safety are concerned.
Reply:I'm not a parent here, but I have these additional tips for you:





Remember that whatever you put together will be viewable by anybody and everybody in the world. The internet is a lot more public a place than people realize. Consider the notion that somebody looking to hire you to work for them a few years down the road might do an internet search for your name and hobbies, and if something comes up that might look a little off about your personal doings from a few years ago, that could pose bad news for your character assessment and you might not get that job.





Also, as a parent, I would probably set a firm rule of "Avoid using your last name." though that would probably go under the "personal information" clause you already have there.





Also, there is hardly much point in putting together a web site if you aren't going to include some method by which your readers can get in touch with you. That said, I would definitely recommend the use of a form as it helps keep e-mail spammers at bay.





Different children may have their own safety concerns as well. If the web had been around when I was younger, under no circumstances would my mother have allowed me to post pictures of myself for very specific personal safety reasons that I won't go into here except to say that even as an adult, I don't have any unmodified pictures of myself on my personal web site for the same reasons.





The child shouldn't have an e-mail address (or IM address) if the child isn't prepared to treat every message as if it comes from a complete and total stranger. If you can't think about being safe, you're not likely to be safe.





Those are my thoughts. I hope they have been helpful.
Reply:sounds like you guys have it covered. The only rule i WOULDN"T have that you and your parents have come up with is the first one. I want my daughters to be able to voice their frustrations, even if they are directed towards me or their life. Good luck with your site.
Reply:My rule would be to let me monitor the site and if I find anything inappropriate, it needs to get removed immediately.


It's definatly hard because you never know what random psycho will look up your site and become obsessed with you. I would also monitor all the e-mail generated through the site to look for anything susupicious.


Otherwise, it sounds like you've got the basic rules down.
Reply:You pretty much answered your own question! You seem to be smart. You know what's right and wrong. Go with what your heart says.
Reply:That she does not strip to the webcam so I have to be embarassed at work again with my horny daughter taking it all off for the world to see.
Reply:Well there's not going to be Internet in my husband's house so I don't have anything to worry about. Girls have no reason to be on the Internet in the first place. Too many dangers for them.