I am nice to this girl that no one will really be friends with, because she is mentally challenged. Well, everything I do to be unique, she copies me! Whatever stores I shop at, she starts to shop at, I make a freewebs.com website, she makes one, I make an xanga site, she makes one. Both my websites are about animals, ans she did them about animals too! Should I ask her why she is copying me? Give me some good advice please....I feel like Im being copied and I feel like Im no longer unique(I try to be unique and different).
This may sound immature but its not...Help!?
It's obvious that she admires you and believes you are better than her so she tries to copy you in order to be better. She has low self confidence, so try to make her feel important and she will stop copy you. If she continues doing that explain what you feel.
Reply:just listen to urself lo, ur probably her best friend, sh elikes you, she likes what u do, probably she does that coz she sees u do it and thinks normal people do it too,why not try and give her new ideas u knu, and dont let her knu what ur up to to safeguard ur uniqueness, but try as much as u can to give her new ideas and soldier her on them, she likes u and wants to be like u, dont get offended by that, just try and help her the best way u knu how.
i knu i wud try and get her ideas od her own.. and not just trashy ideas, just stuff that i think she might like even if i myself dont like them...or pretend to like them , for her sake..take her as she is, please...
Reply:It sounds immature and it is immature.
Reply:you state that she is mentally challenged, I am sure that it is just her way of saying that she likes you and is trying to complement you by trying to be like you... explain to her in a way that she understands she needs to try to be her own person... maybe help her explore different ideas to post on the sites you stated that are not like yours
Reply:You gave the answer in your question.....she's mentally challenged.
Help her to find a style that works for her and do the same for her website.
That's the kind of thing girlfriends do together....and it's really good of you to be her friend.
Reply:While it is seen as flattering to be copied, it can be annoying. It sounds like she truly looks up to you and thinks if she likes what you like and does things like you do then others will accept her as you have.
It is great that you have started a friendship with her. Take some time with her and find out the things that she likes and enjoys. As you help her discover herself she will focus more on herself rather than trying to be you.
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